Are You Missing Opportunities Because of Self-Doubt and Fear?
Do you worry that if you start up a conversation with someone, or speak up in a meeting, you might end up saying something weird, stupid, or even worse, boring?
Are you reluctant to meet new people and build great relationships, because you just can't imagine that they would be interested in you?
Genuine self-confidence is one of the most attractive qualities a person can have. Let's face it: people who are insecure are a big turn-off in both business and personal relationships. And people who overcompensate because of their insecurities are just obnoxious.
Unfortunately, many people carry a poor self-image. This can lead to a cycle of even more insecurity as a person's self-esteem and confidence is worn down by the reactions of people around them, which are just reflections of how they feel about themselves.
You may unconsciously be projecting negative signals about yourself to everyone you meet, whether it's on a first date, a job interview, or a sales call.
Hypnosis is powerful because it makes positive changes directly to your subconscious mind, which is where all your habits and beliefs are stored. This includes your emotions and beliefs about your self-image, which can influence how you present yourself to others.
In the past, you may have tried to talk yourself into having more confidence, or read books and attended seminars to pump yourself up. But in order to make real, long-lasting changes, you probably need to make significant changes in thought patterns and beliefs. How can you do that?
Stop Selling Yourself Short!
Hypnosis breaks the pattern of self-defeating thoughts and behavior in your subconscious. Working together, you and the hypnotist neutralize any negative emotional baggage that you may be carrying, and develop more productive perceptions and beliefs about yourself.
Since these changes are made at the subconscious level, they become a permanent part of your personality. These positive changes become an automatic part of you, and this affects everything from how you present yourself to your daily outlook on life.
You gain a more positive attitude about your self-worth, without becoming arrogant, deluded or overconfident. Imagine being able to take action without being paralyzed by self-doubt:
- Break free of limiting beliefs about how successful you deserve to be
- Gain the confidence to just have a conversation without worrying about what the other person is thinking of you
- Gain the attitude that rejections are "no big deal".
It's common to think that a person just needs to find a way to increase their self-esteem and confidence, in order for them to do better. But this is kind of backwards, if you think about it.
Because there are plenty of people who are full of self-esteem and yet are lacking in social skills. If you have ever watched that TV show "The Office" with the clueless and unaware yet seemingly self-confident manager, then you get the idea.
Real confidence depends on continuous improvement and overcoming progressively more challenging situations. It does not magically happen through a pep-talk or by listening to a motivational speech.
So what needs to happen first is helping people to control and master irrational fears and worries which prevent them from developing and practicing social skills.
In other words, this simplistic model is not accurate:
More confidence/self-esteem (via pep-talks etc.) --> "People really really like me!"
The real model is:
Control and mastery of fear --> Practice and development of social skills --> Less self-absorption and less focusing on yourself in social interactions --> Continuously improving interactions --> True confidence --> Stronger relationships
Please visit my Wordpress video blog for further explanation of how hypnosis can help you become more confident, but more importantly more skillful, in social interactions.
You know that the key to success isn't found in get-rich-quick schemes. And real relationships aren't built on shallow gimmicks and techniques. Your subconscious mind can either be the driving force towards the results you desire, or it can create obstacles at every turn.
Most importantly: don't just daydream-- take action now. Contact me today to find out how I can help you succeed. Maybe you won't be as pumped up and extroverted as Microsoft CEO Steve Ballmer (seen below) --- but does anyone really need to be? At least you can stop hiding from your full potential.
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Stop Smoking Forever
- Wouldn't you like to go through a whole day and not have to think about when you were going to get your next chance to smoke?
- Wouldn't it be great to feel like you're in control, not the cigarettes?
- Do you feel yourself slowing down and getting more tired and worn-out as you continue smoking? Do you recognize that things will go downhill even faster, the more you keep smoking?
- Are you sick of waking up and starting every day with a bout of hacking and coughing?
- Imagine being able to walk into a room and not having to worry in the back of your mind about how badly you smell!
If I could show you how you can become a non-smoker forever, no matter how long or how much you've smoked, without drugs, pills or patches, would you be interested in knowing more?
WARNING!
If the main reason you want to quit is:
* Someone in your life is nagging you
* Your doctor says you need to
* You want to be alive for your children
...BUT you still enjoy smoking, or like the idea of being cool and rebellious by smoking, and think of cigarettes as "your friend" ---
Sorry, you probably aren't ready to quit!
YOU MIGHT AS WELL READ NO FURTHER!
If you are no longer a teenager and yet still believe that smoking makes you more mature, glamorous or interesting, I doubt that I can help you.
Isn't it Time You Grew Up?
Ready to face harsh reality? Try this: for the next few days, every time you go past an office building or bar, take a good look at the kinds of folks huddling outside on their smoke breaks.
They look like real winners, don't they? So glamorous and exciting and mysterious!
Yeah, Right!
According to an MSN Money article "The High Cost of Smoking": "Numerous studies find that smokers earn anywhere from 4% to 11% less than nonsmokers. It's not just a loss of productivity to smoke breaks and poorer health that takes a financial toll, researchers theorize; smokers are perceived to be less attractive and successful as well."
Also in that article: a 40-year-old who quits smoking and puts the savings into an average 401(k) would have nearly $250,000 by age 70.
If you had the opportunity to make a small investment in yourself with a good likelihood of banking a quarter million later, would you do it?
That's a no-brainer, even if saving money isn't the main reason you want to quit smoking...
Maybe you're so financially well off that a quarter million is no big deal to you. But what about Time? Time is even more valuable than money after all. Time lost can never be regained.
Have you ever stopped to think about how much Time you lose every day by smoking? Let's guess that each cigarette takes 5 minutes minimum. So a pack a day = at least an hour and a half every day.
That's almost 50 hours per month!
And that 5-minute assumption is on the low end, if you think about the time it takes to buy smokes, to go in and out of smoke breaks, the interruptions to whatever you were doing...
Now, are there any areas in your life that you keep telling yourself "I just can't find the time to get to that" or "I'm so busy, there aren't enough hours in the day!"
And in the meantime, more than an entire work-week is going up in smoke every month, with nothing to show for it...
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According to the largest scientific study to compare the effectiveness of various smoking cessation methods:
hypnosis has the highest success rate of any approach.
The only exception was in situations where a person was undergoing serious cardiac or pulmonary problems that forced them to stop smoking for medical reasons. I wonder if you'll have to get to that point in order to stop smoking, or not.
This study, published by the University of Iowa, analyzed the results of over 600 previous scientific studies involving more than 70,000 people. But don't take my word for it: the link to this study is here (Adobe PDF document).
Hypnosis was more than twice as effective as the nicotine gum approach. Hypnosis has the added benefit of being completely safe and natural. Some smokers who use nicotine patches and gums find themselves smoking while using the medication, which is even more harmful.
Beyond any scientific research, what matters most is your level of personal commitment to become a non-smoker forever. In fact, I believe that someone who desperately needs to hear a "success rate" claim of any sort has a misunderstanding about what is required for them to change. To a certain extent, that mindset hopes that some external thing (whether it's a pill or patch or some magic hypnotic words) can be given responsibility for making their choices for them. It is not surprising that people who tend to "give in" to unhealthy habits and impulses could find themselves becoming passive and mentally weaker over time.
If you can't stand the idea of cigarettes having control over part of your life, then I am ready to help you become mentally tougher. But if you just half-heartedly want to give it a try, then give some thought as to whether or not you really want to spend the rest of your life as a smoker, before getting in touch with me.
I'm not here to convince anyone to stop smoking if it's something they choose to do. This is a free country; I believe people should have a right to treat themselves however they choose, as long as they accept responsibility for the consequences of their choices.
Are you ready to take control and leave this useless habit behind? Here is how the stop smoking program works:
- Smoking can usually be handled within two sessions.
- Free follow-up session (if needed) for people who have completed the two session program.
- Very few clients need to come in for the free follow-up.
I say "usually" because in cases where people are having difficulties in other areas of their life, often it's better to handle those things first, then it's easier to become a non-smoker once those issues are taken care of. Contact me if you would like to discuss your specific situation, and check out the "What if I'm not sure I'm ready to quit?" item in the FAQ section of this site.
Simple Fee Structure for Smoking Cessation:
- Pay-as-you-go, per session fee: $180 per session, OR...
- Prepaid 2-session package:
$180$150 per session ($300 total). You save $60, plus you have a free followup 3rd session available, if needed.
Compare this to the lifetime cost of continuing to smoke!
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Ask about discounted rates for students and military veterans.
Yes, I accept credit cards.
Fee structure subject to change.
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Still hesitant about using hypnosis to help you stop smoking? Thinking that "it's too expensive" (while ignoring the money you already spend on cigarettes)? While I know that hypnosis can be very effective for many people, I also understand that some visitors to this site could benefit from learning about other options.
So here is a link to the Southeastern Pennsylvania Tobacco Control Project (SEPA TCP), a regional coalition of nearly 60 organizations providing free tobacco control services in the area: http://www.sepatobaccofree.org/.
I had the pleasure of meeting representatives of SEPA TCP at the recent launch of the Body Worlds "I Quit" program at the Franklin Institute (see my blog for details about that event). Check out their programs if you aren't moving forward with a hypnotic-based solution.
The important thing is: don't wait to stop smoking. Do something about it now. Every puff of a cigarette is literally like playing Russian roulette with your health and your genetic material* --- who knows if the next cigarette is the one that breaks some critical strand of DNA in your cells?
You know human nature... if you put things off, you will keep putting things off. Don't be one of those people who wishes they had done something about it, before it was too late.
* Did you know that cigarettes are radioactive? The federal EPA.gov website says: "While cigarette smoke is not an obvious source of radiation exposure, it contains small amounts of radioactive materials which smokers bring into their lungs as they inhale. The radioactive particles lodge in lung tissue and over time contribute a huge radiation dose. Radioactivity may be one of the key factors in lung cancer among smokers."
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Diets and Exercise Not Working?
You've probably tried a lot of different diets. Maybe you've signed up for expensive gym memberships but just couldn't force yourself to work out enough to make a difference. The problem is that conscious willpower usually fades before good eating habits and regular exercise can become part of your normal routine.
Hypnosis works by making positive changes directly to your subconscious mind, which is what controls your automatic habits. It also influences your emotions and beliefs about your self-image, which can be factors in how you treat yourself and your body in regards to food.
Many people have picked up a habit of connecting emotions like boredom, insecurity or sadness with food, so that eating becomes more than just a way of satisfying true physical hunger. This can lead to a cycle of even more insecurity as a person's self-esteem and confidence is worn down by feeling out of control.
Willpower is temporary and fades away. When a person changes their attitude about themselves and their relationship with food, healthy eating becomes more of a natural part of their life.
At Center City Hypnosis, I can help you do this. The focus is not on depriving yourself so that you lose "X" number of pounds in record time, just to gain it back later.
- We aim to change your eating habits and how you relate to food over the course of three to five sessions.
- During the initial consultation we work together to identify positive alternative (guilt-free) behaviors that will be much more satisfying than any junk food could ever be.
- Many clients are surprised at how these changes occur without a lot of struggle and without feeling deprived.
PLEASE NOTE:
The work we do follows the model of first helping people change their thoughts and feelings, which then makes it easier to change their behavior, which then leads to the desired results.
Addressing a person's self-worth and enhancing their ability to handle challenges in life without turning to food for comfort, can be an important part of the process.
Many people have long-standing negative beliefs about themselves, and have gotten into the habit of using food to distract themselves from uncomfortable feelings. Hypnosis can help people break that pattern, but ONLY if they themselves are willing to face problems which are causing them to turn to food.
As a hypnotist, my role is not about convincing people that they need to treat themselves better --- that has to be something a person chooses on their own for this work to even have a chance of succeeding. People with a passive attitude of hoping that a hypnotist will "get them" to lose weight are just avoiding personal responsibility for taking care of themselves.
Please visit the Frequently Asked Questions page of this site to learn more about how hypnosis can help you, but also why the commonly promoted idea that weight loss hypnosis involves "going under" and hearing some magical "fat burning" suggestions is simplistic and naive.
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During hypnosis, we modify subconscious thought patterns to change how you relate to food, eating and exercise. Then you will be able to treat your body with respect, so that you don't overdo either dieting or consumption. Positive change will follow. Good eating habits will become a natural part of your personality.
Unhealthy, sugary snacks and greasy fattening foods will become less appealing to you than a nice piece of fruit or a tasty salad. You will spend less time thinking about the next opportunity to have a donut or piece of chocolate cake.
PS. While hypnosis can help eliminate unwanted thoughts, feelings and behaviors related to food, clients can often experience more rapid and obvious physical benefits if they use an easy-to-follow system as part of their daily routine. This can be very motivating and encouraging.
I had the good fortune to learn about such a program, that gets fast results in a healthy and natural way:
Click here to find out about a great program that I highly recommend (and use personally)
This program can be used alongside, or even separately from, hypnosis sessions; it depends on the nature of a person's difficulties. Contact me to discuss your specific situation.
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Anyone who suspects they may have an eating disorder or medical condition should seek assistance from a state-licensed medical or psychological professional. Hypnosis should not be used as a stand-alone treatment for medical or psychological disorders.
If you have been formally diagnosed with a disorder or medical condition, I will need a written referral from your healthcare provider to assist you directly with that condition. Contact me for details regarding the referral procedure.
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