Feeling Too Self-Conscious? Distortion and Breaking Illusions with Hypnosis

22 Jun

I help many clients who have difficulties feeling at ease within social interactions. Many people would think the problem is lack of self-confidence, but if you look deeper, it’s often more about misdirection of FOCUS, naturally exacerbated when you’re in situations where it can feel like ALL EYES ARE ON ME.

Some people (like Tupac and other would-be celebrities) seem to thrive and in fact seem to NEED that kind of attention, but for most normal people, it’s uncomfortable and some people go to great lengths to avoid it.

PROBLEM: if you try to solve this by increasing your own SELF-confidence, or by trying to make your SELF more interesting, or by trying to suppress feelings of discomfort, that is exactly the wrong direction to turn your attention towards.

Here is a very interesting video of an optical illusion that demonstrates how intense focus can literally cause negative distortions in perception (for full effect, watch this short clip in FULL SCREEN mode, or stick your face really close to the screen):

Think about how this would apply to yourself if you focused too intently on your own feelings, your own internal dialog, and your own appearance during a social interaction.

The classic work “How to Win Friends and Influence People” by Dale Carnegie contains the solution: develop and display sincere and genuine interest in the person in front of you.

Strangely, some people think that advice sounds phony and manipulative, as if it’s unimaginable that you could be curious about the OTHER person. But in my observation, those tend to be the same people who would benefit the most from adopting the Carnegie attitude!

If you think about it, there is no alternative solution. You cannot solve problems related to self-consciousness by focusing more on yourself!

Wouldn’t it be great to be as naturally comfortable with yourself as this little lady 🙂 –>

Hypnosis can help alter the direction of focus in ways which make social interactions more comfortable and rewarding, not just for yourself, but for everyone involved… and that should be the whole point, right?

When “Taking A Deep Breath” Doesn’t Work

28 Nov

Most people have had the experience of being told by friends or family to “just take a deep breath” when they are stressed or nervous. And just as many people have tried to do just that, only to find that it doesn’t seem to help much.

The video below describes a couple of common reasons why this happens:

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Ignorance or Deception? The Fine Art of Blowing Smoke

13 Dec

In the hypnosis field, a lot of emphasis is placed on gaining the confidence and trust of clients. Novice hypnotists often ask “How do I get people to trust me?” Step #1: stop being the type of person whose thinking would lead to asking that kind of question in the first place.

The misguided effort to gain trust and confidence is often expressed by hypnotists telling the public whatever sounds comforting or reassuring, regardless of its accuracy or truth. So, here is a video to help you sort through the nonsense that is peddled:

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(DISCLAIMER: Testimonials and customer reviews are not guarantees of similar results. Individual results may vary.)

For more information, visit the main website at http://www.centercityhypnosis.com.

You Are Getting Sleepy

1 Feb

This post isn’t about the old hypnotism cliche “You are getting sleepy…” I’ve hypnotized thousands of people, and in the occasional case where people fall asleep during the process, those are really errors and mistakes on my part (usually by … Read More »