Feeling Too Self-Conscious? Distortion and Breaking Illusions with Hypnosis

22 Jun

I help many clients who have difficulties feeling at ease within social interactions. Many people would think the problem is lack of self-confidence, but if you look deeper, it’s often more about misdirection of FOCUS, naturally exacerbated when you’re in situations where it can feel like ALL EYES ARE ON ME.

Some people seem to thrive and in fact seem to NEED that kind of attention, but for most normal people, it’s uncomfortable and some people go to great lengths to avoid it.

PROBLEM: if you try to solve this by increasing your own SELF-confidence, or by trying to make your SELF more interesting, or by trying to suppress feelings of discomfort, that is exactly the wrong direction to turn your attention towards.

Here is a very interesting video of an optical illusion that demonstrates how intense focus can literally cause negative distortions in perception (for full effect, watch this short clip in FULL SCREEN mode, or stick your face really close to the screen):

Think about how this would apply to yourself if you focused too intently on your own feelings, your own internal dialog, and your own appearance during a social interaction.

The classic work “How to Win Friends and Influence People” by Dale Carnegie contains the solution: develop and display sincere and genuine interest in the person in front of you.

Strangely, some people think that advice sounds phony and manipulative, as if it’s unimaginable that you could be curious about the OTHER person. But in my observation, those tend to be the same people who would benefit the most from adopting the Carnegie attitude!

If you think about it, there is no alternative solution. You cannot solve problems related to self-consciousness by focusing more on yourself! Hypnosis can help alter the direction of focus so social interactions become more comfortable and rewarding, not just for yourself, but for everyone involved.

Hypno-Interview on Emotions Matter Podcast

19 May

I was recently invited to do an interview with the nice folks who run the Emotions Matter Podcast. It includes the strange but true story of how I got into this field, which people seem to find either amusing or outrageous (if they are easily outraged, I guess):

When “Taking A Deep Breath” Doesn’t Work

28 Nov

Most people have had the experience of being told by friends or family to “just take a deep breath” when they are stressed or nervous. And just as many people have tried to do just that, only to find that it doesn’t seem to help much.

The video below describes a couple of common reasons why this happens:

(DISCLAIMER: Testimonials and customer reviews are not guarantees of similar results. Individual results may vary.)

For more information, visit the main website at http://www.centercityhypnosis.com.

You Are Getting Sleepy

1 Feb

This post isn’t about the old hypnotism cliche “You are getting sleepy…” I’ve hypnotized thousands of people, and in the occasional case where people fall asleep during the process, those are really errors and mistakes on my part (usually by … Read More »

A Couple of New Videos

8 Jun

I recently uploaded some new clips to my YouTube channel, here are a couple (please excuse the t-shirt and cap attire, I recorded these on days where I wasn’t seeing clients): Going Fishing – this is about using hypnosis with … Read More »

Test Anxiety? Hypnosis Can Help

10 Jan

One of the more common issues I help people with is test-taking anxiety. Here is a screenshot (used with kind permission) of an unsolicited email I received recently from a client who was able to pass a medical board exam … Read More »

Is Hypnosis a Magic Pill… or not?

21 Oct

For more hypno-videos, check out: http://www.youtube.com/thegrumpyhypnotist *** (DISCLAIMER: Testimonials and customer reviews are not guarantees of similar results. Individual results may vary.) To learn more, visit the main website at http://www.centercityhypnosis.com.

Borat the Hypnotist

24 Jul

In one of the earlier posts I referred to X-Ray Specs and their promise of super-special secret powers. In the hypnosis field, many people devote a lot of attention to looking for a magical formula — how to use language … Read More »